Is NAD (National Association of the Deaf) only for deaf people who suffered and were oppressed against?
Are you unqualified because you might not have suffered or experienced oppression as a deaf person?
That is what I was told by a deaf gay man. To begin with I thought it was a laughable notion until I realized how serious this man was and that he really believed it. And then I realized something. It's the root of a culprit within the big D society. This man actually believed it and he was so disappointed with his own life. He's like many unhappy and disappointed big D people I knew.... always busy whining about how they have suffered and experienced oppression in a horrible way. Read below and see what I just learned from this deaf gay man who wanted to ask me these questions directly.
*quoting this man*
Do you remember the time when you looked at the facial expression of a hearing employer, knowing that they're not interested in you?
Do you remember the time you were bullied because you were Deaf?
Do you remember the time where your parents don't sign or encouraged you to use your speech?
Do you remember the time when your hearing family members left you out of their conversation?
Do you remember the time that Deaf people couldn't get married?
We, as a Deaf people, sometimes take things for granted. We forgot what it means to be Deaf. We forgot what it meant to be discriminated. We forgot what it meant to be oppressed. We forgot what it meant to be a minority. To this day, we are still struggling for our rightful place in our society.
After having this conversation with him I gained a better understanding of what was wrong with the big D society. They're not interested in successful stories because it offends them greatly. They only want to hear about those who didn't have a good life in order to feel validated. I thought it was rather interesting. It gave me something to think about.
Apparently it is the ultimate sin as far as the culturally and linguistically big D deaf people are concerned. Could it be the reason why they are not winning very many battles? Is it why their world's becoming rapidly small and smaller? Are they the reason why young deaf people are not engaging themselves into the deaf community? What made these 'desperate and angry' big 'D' people think that deaf youths would find them interesting and appealing if they didn't host a wealth of successful and happy deaf people.
Ever heard of this saying... "you are who you hang out with"? What will happen to you if you constantly hang around out with angry deaf people who felt that they have suffered and were oppressed against? Sooner or later you'll begin to sound like them and eventually, you'll be one of them. Not kidding you here. And that's what happened to National Association of the Deaf. There seem to be no shortage of negativity in this organization. They seem to lack positive and successful role models because they were chewed out for saying they didn't suffer or were not oppressed against.
I want to take few moments to thank this deaf gay man for giving me a new insight on this matter.